we try to talk and be respectful and work it out like adults, because we want to show you how people who love each other communicate effectively.
sometimes we talk a little loud and we should use respectful tones.
but we love each other.
and after spending time apart, we dont ever wanna do that again.
we work hard to let our relationship work.
and sometimes we get stubborn and have to be brought back down.
just a couple things i want you to remember:
when you find the person you are supposed to be with...do NOT let them go.
Never allow someone to call you names, or hurt you with their hands or words.
i would say dont ever go to bed angry, but sometimes you will. and thats okay. on those days, while youre still angry say "im still VERY mad at you, but i love you. and this can wait until we're ready to talk." if youre too mad yuou cant say it...just say "i love you."
do not EVER use your hands to show anger by hitting the person you love.
when you love them, love only them. sometimes your mind may wander or you may think thoughts, but if you act on those thoughts you really hurt someones heart.
Julian, LOVE your wife. Love her like youve never loved another.
Maya, Respect your husband. love him and show him that he is your world and the head of your life.
to you both...this does NOT mean lose your independence or your spirit...allow them to be with you in this life.
Have dates with your loved one from day 1 to day 60,000. Be the old couple seeing movies together, and judebug, always pull out her chair and open her door. My gramma used to give my boppa heck...and he would still open her car door and hold her hand to help her in.
respect love as a process. if you truly love someone..it doesnt just go away, even if you are no longer together. learn to respect your own growth, and the people that helped you.
have grocery shopping dates. no one WANTS to grocery shop, but doing it as a date makes it romantic.
have coffee dates when you have kids. have someone watch the kids for 1 hour while you get coffee...or even 15 minutes while you drive to starbucks....or even waking up at 6am to have a coffee date together before the kids wake up.
have lazy sundays. Mahmee's favorite days have been sundays that daddy didnt get up early and he stayed in bed cuddling while i slept in.
do things that make her happy. i love it when daddy makes me coffee before work...and sometimes i leave him notes.
make dinners. clean up a little extra. rent special movies. have living room sleepovers.
thank them, for doing the things they do....even if they are gonna anyway. "thanks for working today" i tell daddy. "thanks for doing the laundry for me!"
go out for your anniversary...and then some.
keep pictures in your house of just the two of you...and leave the old ones up too. this helps you remember where you came from...and where you are now.
make gingerbread houses together.
eat candy together.
go on jogs and runs together.
rub each others shoulders together.
say i love you...a LOT.
always tell them "its going to be okay." even if you arent sure.
do charity work together, or something that gives back.
cuddle.
play board games together.
pick your battles...and pick them wisely.
dont call each other names...and if they slip...you sure as heck better apologize for them.
find your balance....
mahmee and daddy are gonna cuddle and watch a movie together....ill add more later for you.
we love you both babies.
i pray every day that you both get what daddy and i have.
love you!
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